Cyber-Bullying / Watching on your kids online activity

So would you or do you snoop on your kids online activity?So in short do you snoop/check/review your kids online accounts and activity? we are in a position where Liam is far to young at 6 to have an online footprint. Dylan however is old enough at 12 and this is where it gets a little interesting.

In my past life i have been a systems admin for a large retail group and also lets be real am a major geek/nerd and know a lot about the web and all its dark places.  With this in mind however i went to a recent school meeting where by an internet expert and child welfare expert were present to give some key information to us parents to keep the kids safe online.

First shocking aspect of the evening, less than a quarter of the seats laid out were occupied with parents eager to learn! that means 75% of parents did not bother to turn up to see if there was something they could learn to keep an eye on kids welfare when online…

Second shocking thing for me was given my knowledge of the internet etc was how much i don’t know… for example the below text code speak was quite revealing:-

After you read this list, you’ll likely start looking at your kids texts in a whole new way.

1. IWSN – I want sex now

2. GNOC – Get naked on camera

3. NIFOC – Naked in front of computer

4. PIR – Parent in room

5. CU46 – See you for sex

6. 53X – Sex

7. 9 – Parent watching

8. 99 – Parent gone

9. 1174′ – Party meeting place

10. THOT – That hoe over there

11. CID – Acid (the drug)

12. Broken – Hungover from alcohol

13. 420 – Marijuana

14. POS – Parent over shoulder

15. SUGARPIC – Suggestive or erotic photo

16. KOTL – Kiss on the lips

17. (L)MIRL – Let’s meet in real life

18. PRON – Porn

19. TDTM – Talk dirty to me

20. 8 – Oral sex

21. CD9 – Parents around/Code 9

22. IPN – I’m posting naked

23. LH6 – Let’s have sex

24. WTTP – Want to trade pictures?

25. DOC – Drug of choice

26. TWD – Texting while driving

27. GYPO – Get your pants off

28. KPC– Keeping parents clueless

Source (http://edition.cnn.com/2014/12/08/living/internet-acronyms-every-parent-should-know/)

Now the above is alarmist, its a stop and pause list and alarm bells should be going off for you to check your kids, facebook, mobile etc… However do you do this already and if not do you need to start?

Dylan has no Facebook account, we think he is too young and besides he speaks to people in the family and has friends he plays football with outside in the real world. He got a phone this year in March and the condition was that at any time we wanted we could inspect Viber (for school chat) and any SMS message  chain.

Any single time we have asked for the phone at any random time he hands it over, its normal, only maybe once every two weeks sometimes three. He has a solid grounded approach and has never entertained online bullying or cyber bullying at all and has stood up for others when he has seen it. We are very lucky but we all have a trusting family relationship so really have no fear in this respect however not all families are the same.

We are very aware some parents think we are too strict, I counter that in good grades, solid friends, never being in trouble and having impeccable manners, i can already see the young man he will become so have no issues with our parenting style.

I have however seen kids that are left to the side, not being watched as closely and all hell breaking loose as mum and dad want to be best friends and not parents or seen as the bad guy. Great, be best friends but that will come back to bite you in the backside at some point.

We as parents will watch over the boys like a hawk, we are also best friends but we are parents first and foremost and what we say goes, no argument, no messing, If not happy move out however we have been ultra consistent in our parenting approach and its paying off.

Would I encourage you to watch over your kids a little more, 100% yes, it not already done so this will be hard, if you start early though you will find it pays you back i so many ways as the kids will feel safer and so will you.

If you think your child is being bullied please visit one of the following site:-

Barnardos

Bully4u

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